October 23, 2013

Peta Petidis

Every day, members of the human race enter the world of our reality with their own original personas, physical appearances, behaviours and interests. It is no lie that each living organism on this planet is unique and differs on some level even from their own. Take the whole of mankind for example; we are different in almost every way. From intellect to style, personality to habits, preferences to flaws our society is a fusion of variances. But are we all accepting of these personality quirks, or is there a pang of judgement at every glance? We are engrossed with the perception of judgement. As the youth, we are constantly reminded of its cruelties and how overlooking a person’s appearances and mannerisms is vain and unethical. On the other hand isn’t judgement necessary when making an impression? Isn’t analysing a person at first glimpse the best way to identify possible threat or bad company? Perhaps within the term judgement, there is a useful tool that should cease to be ignored.

Certain attitude and representation of a person is identified with just a look. Of course some may argue that taking the time to formally acknowledge a person as a whole unit, both internally and externally, can enable one to piece together the entirety of that being. Hence the term, ‘Don’t judge a book by its cover.’  The fact is, to know a person both in and out, is impossible. Judgement is profoundly based on how somebody comes across towards the public. They could be a whole other person within but choose to present themselves differently, or in some cases, as they feel both physically and emotionally. It’s confusing banter on my behalf but I truly believe that people wear what they wear, act how they act, say what they say in order to be judged for better or worse.

It is evident that we all judge, you might hate to admit it but I assure you it happens. Nonetheless we are who we are and seem to analyse and identify people according to how they present themselves, which encourages us to form groups and cliques with those we replicate best or compliment well. Ever heard the term ‘having a type’? People seem to feel more comfortable in the presence of a certain type of people, this could be defined by their fashion sense, music taste, eye colour, sporting ability or even their favourite foods, we are all wired to like certain things about others and ourselves, and we pluck out these variables during first meetings or sightings from afar which ultimately determine whether or not we like a person.

But should the judgement matter to us? It’s a reality that surrounds us and we’re all quite understanding in the terms that judgement is everywhere but it’s important not to let it get to you. If a person judges you from afar without taking the time to better acquaint themselves, it’s their loss. Perhaps the aura they perceived of you didn’t coincide with theirs or blatantly they may have just been jealous, and so that first impression influenced total observation of you. You shouldn’t be ashamed of yourself; you might even benefit from this subtle dismissal and move on to find yourself a negative to your positive rather than a clash of magnetic field.

I believe that it may not be obvious, but we all search for something in others, and we judge people in order to find what satisfies or dissatisfies us. In the end we’re all just looking for valuable company and who we’re more likely to get along with. Whether it’s in the spectrum of romance, friendship or even family, we are aware of the people that make us happiest in life because we critique their behaviours selfishly to find accurate companionships for ourselves. We search for the yins to our yang, the negative force to our already positive one, the rissole to our wholegrain loaf.

To justify the reason for judgement is hard, but I think this gives you a better understanding of why we do it. However, we can’t all lie to ourselves or to society for that matter, and ask for no judgement inturn because we’d all be hypocrites. But next time you meet someone for the first time and have your pick about them, remember that you’re analysing and identifying their shell of a person and that they could be totally different in turn. It may take time to uncover who a person truly is but to make that easier you shouldn’t lie to yourself or to the world. Try to present yourself equally on the outside as you are on the inside and venture confidently in a world of- not judgement- but integrity.

– Peta Petidis

– Photos Amy Steele

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  1. Sarah Says:

    I really agree with your comment about eye colour. I really feel uncomfortable around people whose eyes are not blue, hair is not blonde, and skin is not white.

    I’m not judging, but I feel like the outer appearance of someone reflects their internality…

    Your article really shed light on WHY i feel this way 🙂


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